What Makes You Do What You Do

What Makes You Do What You Do

Written By : Bakhtiar Hakeem
I hope the crux and essence of the exercise on what makes you do what you decide and evaluate your success has come to a successful end. It should have met following objectives:
a. Discovering what actually matters in your life.
b. What are the major prime-movers and over-riding clauses in your day-to-day and long-term DM.
c. How successful were your successes for His world, countries and people?
d. Have you been improving and learning over your past life?, and
e. This exercise in introspect has been able to goad and restart the process of sifting bran from grain, hypocrisy from truth and taking you to a brighter and happier morning.

         What Makes You Do What You Do

 

 

Never have I dealt with anything more difficult than my own soul, which sometimes helps me and sometimes opposes me.

 

                                                                                                                                      Imam Al-Ghazali

 

1.   How does the title sound like? Simple, or mysterious, or really enthralling, taking you through a fascinating exercise of self-discovery. Or taking you through the intricacies of psychology of exhibited behavior. There are two parts of the following individual workshop on self-discovery-cum-self-improvement. An effort has been made to reduce the number of words and instead increase diagrammatic, pictorial and picturesque explanation.

 

a.           Part one, deals with what makes you do, judging all by yourself through a hands-on help. A brief explanation of a type of decision-making (DM) prime mover is given. So be sure about the type and category of the DM. Do you fall in this category; fully, no not at all or partially? This step is followed by ‘Yes, No’ and an estimate by ‘percentage (%)’; to help you award yourself. Next is the box, where you award yourself, Y or N or xx%. Life is not in shades of black and white, and it is neither fixed for good. That is the source of hope that men of prudence will ponder, amend and change. I do plan to run it as a workshop, as and when I get a chance to. May I mention for our new readers, that the author of this contribution is Chairperson and Head of Department of Management Sciences at HITEC University, Taxila. He is also a regular trainer and guest speaker at NIM Islamabad and Quetta. He has run training for the officers of NAB; and for the development of faculty at COMSATS, and HITEC University.

 

b.            Part two and the last part, deals with how much the values set by leaders of mankind govern your DM and affect what you do. We will examine how much those values act as a reference line. He sent His prophets to teach us, what should be the basis of DM, and what would be the ideal way to act. Like previous part you will award yourself out of Y, N, and if none of these then a measured %. It will show the degree to which these values are deciding and motivating force in the DM.    

 

2.    Part One: Seven Situations. First six type-examples can be grouped under one sub-category while the last one forms another. It is not an exclusive list, however majority of decisions and major part of your life would be covered in these.

 

a.    ‘I do as the majority is doing. After all, all can not be crazy; there must be some extra-ordinary incentive ahead’.   

 

You are here

 

 

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

Y

 

N

 

%

 

 

 

 

 

b.    ‘I hate to follow the crowd. I am not like them; I am not a commoner or among the street people. I follow the elite, or fly my way’.

 

You are here

 

         

 

 

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

N

 

%

 

Y

 

 

 

 

 

c. ‘I am happy what-ever and where-ever I am. I have good wives, a comfortable house and two square meals. No issues and no worries. My father, may Allah bless his soul left enough for me. I do not make waves. I thank my Allah five times a day. And do not want to get in to any trouble by following naughty and self-projecting ideas and the trouble seeking friends.’

 

                                              

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

Y

 

N

 

%

 

 

 

 

       

 

d.    ‘No, way over my dead body. I will see how he/she/they:

 

                                                 i.      Get this marriage proposal through, or

 

                                                ii.      Buy this piece of land, which is our ancestral land, in fact; or

 

                                               iii.      Build a house next to mine. I will buy this plot whatever be the cost. How could I allow the killers of my father and brother to be my next door neighbor?’

 

  

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

%

 

Y

 

N

 

 

 

 

 

e.    ‘I have great ideas. Usually I have superior and novel ideas, but do wait till some one or at least a few chosen show inclination and take a start. My spearheads are no less than two-star generals, and or out of celebrities, or my seniors; family big-wigs or at least party (political) or community leaders.’

 

 

 

 

 

You are here

 

 

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

%

 

Y

 

N

 

 

 

 

 

f.     ‘How come these (two) are ahead of me? I will beat them any time; I have been winner all along, and second to none. Whatever it takes me to win the race…to richness, getting gold medal, to become chief, leader of the house, or… winning an auction. I have always made my critics to lick. Nothing succeeds like success. This world bows to winners and winner only. Discussion of right and wrong and rules is all bookish, Unhh!’

 

 

You are here

 

 

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

Y

 

N

 

%

 

 

 

 

 

g.   How do I decide what is success, or what was being successful? Here are three situations.

 

(1)     I got commissioned in the Army in 1968. I was a young captain when war broke out with India. I was at Comilla; escaped through Burma and reached West Pakistan, without being taken as a POW. War ended in one of the biggest military defeat. Fifty thousand laid their arms, and East Wing of the Country was lost. I got ‘A grades in all my courses, kept moving from good to better postings and topped it with better to best ACRs, later OER. War course qualified, I could have made two-star general easily, but for one three star in my Promotion Board.

 

(2)     After retirement from Army I became the CEO of a production unit, in one of the Army-founded business houses. The factory was already down the hill, three and a half years later; about a year before the end of my tenure it was sold out half its real value. My rank had made me chief executive of a business unit, so I kept it first and foremost. My pay and monetary perks increased every year and on a growing scale. My last pay was almost double as compared to the one I had started with. My car also grew from 1200 to 1800 CC.

 

(3)     God gave me a son and a daughter. Daughter led and joined Foreign Service after her CSS. I had to pursue her to get married to a leading Pakistani-Australian businessman; son of a three-star general, and my course-mate. She is now an Australian citizen. Son became doctor through Army Medical College. Later he went for his specialization to UK. He is now a medical specialist at Heart Hospital, Harefield, London. He will be a British national, shortly.

 

 

a.    Were you a successful army officer?

 

b.    Were you a successful business executive?

 

c.   Were you a successful father?

 

Yes, No or somewhere in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

%

 

Y

 

N

 

 

 

a.

 

b.

 

c.

 

 

 

3.    Part 2: Their Way. This is the part, where universal and eternal values shaped and formed the ideal lane for conduct and exhibited behavior. These were the ways (sunnah) of His chosen men. They persistently came down to each and every people for good eight to nine centuries (10:47 Quran)[i]. They performed the role of a role model. Allowing us to choose out of the preferred way and the cursed way. God Almighty left it to us to pick either of the two. He was patient to see how His vice-regent behaves and exhibits. For His prophets, had since warned of bad ending and foretold of happy tidings. And last of His scripture was available to all, in its pure and original form (15:9). And Creator had made this life a test (67:2 & 76:2) to try us.

 

4.    One could turn around and say, why and how could we act and behave like His chosen people. They were prophets; we are not.  I respect your opinion and leave His books (2:213, 3:84-85 & 16:124) for you to decide for yourself (2:113). When He leaves the matter of judgment to the Day of Judgment, why should we be the managers of mankind. Even the prophets were to convey His message, clearly and vividly; only. He (himself) was the evaluator and the judge (2:210), to reward and award. Our job was to strive to our best (6:135). Here are just a few examples out of the conduct of the prophets of Islam. Let us see how much the sunnah (ways of prophets) has helped you do what you do?

 

The Quran discusses a certain conversation between an unrighteous ruler (Nimrud) and Abraham. The king who had ordered the building of the Tower of Babel. Nimrod became extremely arrogant due to his wealth and power, to the point that he made the claim that he possessed the power of creation. According to Romano-Jewish historian Flavius Josephus, Nimrod was a man who….set up a huge fire to burn Ibrahim for the later asked him to mend his ways (pbuh). [ii]

 

Have you, following this value to stand up and strive against an oppressor, unjust king or ruler ever stood up against a ruler, a PM, like Benjamin Netanyahu; a CM, your DG or CEO for the sake of collective good, putting your interests (even life) at peril?

 

Yes, No or some where in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

 

Moses led his people, told them what wrong they were doing and what should they do to mend their ways (2:54 Quran). According to the Book of Exodus, Moses was born in a time when his people, the Children of Israel, were increasing in numbers and the Egyptian Pharaoh was worried that they might ally with Egypt's enemies.  After the Ten Plagues, Moses led the Exodus of the Israelites out of Egypt and across the Red Sea, after which they based themselves at Mount Sinai, where Moses received the Ten Commandments. [iii] Following the same sunnah followers of last of His prophets had to migrate not once but twice. Muhammad (pbuh) could only convert about 130 people in three years; 610-612 CE[iv]. Then he led his followers from Mecca to Madina Sep 622 CE[v]. Majority was never considered authority.

 

Have you, following this value tried to lead your people? Did you try to be president, prime-minister, chief minister or a public leader in any form? Did you teach, preach and motivate your community and lead your followers over long distances to practice and live by the way He wants? Recall exodus of 1947. Do you believe in numerical majority to be a certification for being right? Did your ancestors play a lead role?

 

Yes, No or some where in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

 

 

Last of His Prophet, did following with out any dispute or controversy:

 

a.    Fought and led no less than seventeen battles.

 

b.    Married repeatedly, and to ladies who were far senior in age, widows or divorcees.

 

c.    Built and constructed mosques, and overviewed the construction of several; while none had a tomb and a minaret.

 

d.    Was head of a state, like Dawood (David) (pbuh) and Solomon (pbuh); for over eight years. [vi]

 

e.    Never in Islam there was any sunni or shia prophet; and you have read 6:159 Quran, too.[vii]

 

Have any of above five examples out of the life of last prophet been able to Make you do What you Do?

 

Yes, No or some where in between?

 

Award yourself, either Y, N or assign most appropriate %; in the box below.

 

 

 

5.    Conclusion. An article cannot fully replace an interactive workshop. As a reader you will have to go through this workshop all by yourself. I hope the crux and essence of the exercise on what makes you do what you decide and evaluate your success has come to a successful end. It  should have met following objectives:

 

a.    Discovering what actually matters in your life.

 

b.    What are the major prime-movers and over-riding clauses in your day-to-day and long-term DM.

 

c.    How successful were your successes for His world, countries and people?

 

d.    Have you been improving and learning over your past life?, and

 

e.    This exercise in introspect has been able to goad and restart the process of sifting bran from grain, hypocrisy from truth and taking you to a brighter and happier morning.

 

6.    Enjoying your right of being wrong will help you grow; whatever be the age, social and statutory status.  Select your values and value system.

 

 

END NOTES

 



[i] The translations used here in this article were of Marmaduke Muhammad Pikthall.

 

[ii] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prophet_Ibrahim.

 

[iii] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moses

 

[iv] Muhammad Hajj Guide 1st ed, Islamic Sciences and Research Academy Australia, 2013, Kuwait

 

[v] ibid

 

[vi] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muhammad

 

[vii] Safiur Rehman M., Al Raheeq Al Makhtoom,  xxxxx